Tuesday, January 2, 2018


I know I haven't been very consistent with posts but when i looked at this year's posts, I noticed it was all of my travels. This honestly made me so happy because I accomplished so much in travel and adventures. I think it's a great way to get to know yourself and what the relationships around you mean to you. So many people are talking about new year resolutions and what they plan on doing to change themselves when we are changing every day. At the end of the day, if I've been reflecting on myself and who I want to be regularly... and going for it... I feel that I am meeting my "resolutions" every day. It doesn't have to be one day of the year that you are allowed to make changes in your life. You can initiate change whenever you want!

Right now, I'm in this transitional point in my life where many things feel uncertain. But I was reflecting on it and realized that it's all just perspective. Technically, we all wake up with expectations of what our day is going to be like or what we plan to do. But nothing is guaranteed. And with that being said, every day can feel uncertain. But instead of perceiving it that way, I would say most of us wake up with ideas and goals for ourselves to accomplish, whether its simply getting out of bed on time or accomplishing something in our professional or personal lives. Expectations are so interesting and even toxic in a way. It's nice to know what to expect to a certain extent-- it's nice to know the unknown. But it's also not nice when these expectations fail us or fail others. Or even worse, when you feel like you've failed someone else's expectations of you or your abilities.

As I get older and work my way through my 20's, I see this confrontation between our expectations and other's expectations transpiring in scary ways. It is what it is. It's a confrontation. And if you ask anyone if they like confrontation, my bet is that they will say no indefinitely. But what I'm learning about myself these days is that confrontation with myself is the worst. And sometimes, it leaves you thinking that the problem isn't you, but the pressures around you that are the core of the problem. Like parents who don't support your life decisions or society quietly whispering in your ear that you are inherently doing something wrong when you're simply doing it differently. It's not an easy thing to think about or to deal with, but it's been happening on the regular for me these days.

If I learned anything in 2017, it's that it's hard to put yourself first, but you have to learn to prioritize yourself. I set many expectations for myself without truly considering how many external factors went into my decisions and motivations. To some extent, how we want to perceive ourselves and what we want to see in ourselves can be based off of family and society. There are often precedents we aspire to follow or pressures that make us feel this is the right or maybe only path to take in life. But, when it comes down to how you want to live your life and what you want to do, you have to accept that not everyone is going to approve of your decisions. And even though it may not feel like it at first, that's okay. As long as you're happy and healthy. If people truly care about you, they will be happy for you or eventually come around to accepting that your decisions are your decisions to make.

Happy New Year everyone.

Do everything with love.
Don't be afraid to fall.
Learn how to fly.

Cheesy ending over and out.


  1. Hello
    Lovely post and reflections!
    enjoyed reading it!
    Personally I have only one goal that is to fight my health problems because after a long week of tests, MRI, ultrasounds and all that follows, I must follow the decision of the doctors and make me operate .
    Happy New Year!

  2. Thanks for dropping by Helena! I hope all goes well with your health related care/operations. Take care!


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